tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post1227758931929130433..comments2023-09-27T07:40:50.535-07:00Comments on Mes Deux Cents: Good morning ma'am....who me?Mes Deux Centshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10697034868111011343noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-20016371311126787682008-02-02T19:33:00.000-08:002008-02-02T19:33:00.000-08:00Yes.Yes.Gunfighterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05762432006297768871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-77499659878646081042008-02-01T06:54:00.000-08:002008-02-01T06:54:00.000-08:00James,That's one way to get people to speak! :)___...James,<BR/><BR/>That's one way to get people to speak! :)<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/><BR/>Ehav,<BR/><BR/>Oops! Lol, sorry I don't know why I was thinking St Louis.<BR/><BR/>I remember when there was a major event in NY, like a transit strike, people would be very friendly. So it doens't surprise me that people were speaking to each other after 9/11.<BR/><BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Dustin,<BR/><BR/>I learned to things as a child in NY. Always walk like you are going some where, even if you are lost and don't stare or speak to people.<BR/><BR/>Those were the NY golden rules.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Juicy,<BR/><BR/>Many people think of DC as part of the south. So it's probably locals that speak. <BR/><BR/>And as you say there are a lot of transplants, so they are probably the ones that don't speak.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/>___________________________________Mes Deux Centshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10697034868111011343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-14509083291231516102008-01-31T23:13:00.000-08:002008-01-31T23:13:00.000-08:00I'm in the DC/MD/VA area and it's half & half. Som...I'm in the DC/MD/VA area and it's half & half. Some people speak. Some don't. It's tricky in DC specifically, because people come from all over the country and the world, and bring their particular custom (to speak or not to) with them. I used to say hello to strangers but too many unstable characters (which we have a LOT of in DC) took that as an invitation, so I've since stopped.Juicy77https://www.blogger.com/profile/02045300344342251902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-16496631627207142102008-01-31T22:48:00.000-08:002008-01-31T22:48:00.000-08:00MDC:I moved from the West coast were many spoke to...MDC:<BR/><BR/>I moved from the West coast were many spoke to each other to the East Coast where you make as little eye contact as possible. This is an especially useful tip if you are on NYC transit.<BR/><BR/>The move has been a culture shock in many ways but speaking to people is one thing that I have to remember <B>not</B> to do otherwise people think you are up to something.<BR/><BR/>In regards to the South, I remember people being very polite there. As a child I remember being surprised when someone called me ma'am. It was funny because I could not have been more than 12 at the time. I will take Southern hospitality over East Coast hostility every time.Dustinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11819268740717647941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-20808009570251706562008-01-31T21:24:00.000-08:002008-01-31T21:24:00.000-08:00Hey MDC,St. Louis? I said Kansas City. Oh now it i...Hey MDC,<BR/><BR/>St. Louis? I said Kansas City. Oh now it is on. What's Up? (LOL)<BR/><BR/>I visited St. Louis a few times when my mother was working there temporarily. I also went there once to do some speaking engagements at some schools in East St. Louis. It definitely had some touched areas.<BR/><BR/>What I do remember in NYC was after 9-11 things changed for a nice while. People seemed a lot nicer in NYC after 9-11.Ehav Everhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04201312079270363001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-66142245319945038892008-01-31T18:51:00.000-08:002008-01-31T18:51:00.000-08:00Ehav,Yeah I remember when saying "What's up" could...Ehav,<BR/><BR/>Yeah I remember when saying "What's up" could cause a fight. Even among some women.<BR/><BR/>That's crazy; people really put themselves in silly little boxes.<BR/><BR/>And I never thought of St L being a rough city until I saw a news report about all the gangs there.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Shelly,<BR/><BR/>I was wondering how it was there. I kind of figured it would be more like NY there.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>NBW,<BR/><BR/>Wow that's kind of unusual isn't it? But you know that might have to do with there being so many transplants in Atlanta now.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>JJ B,<BR/><BR/>Lol, hello back!<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Symphony,<BR/><BR/>Yeah I remember those random conversations. It took me a while to get used to that. At first I would give people a blank stare. Lol<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>WTM,<BR/><BR/>I remember going to a fast food place called Captain D's and getting hush puppies.<BR/><BR/>Is Belks gone now?<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Randi,<BR/><BR/>I heard the DC is more southern than northern. So that might account for why people speak there.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Anali,<BR/><BR/>Lol, yeah I remember times when people would talk in NY, like blackouts or transit strikes.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Don,<BR/><BR/>I heard Milwaukee is kinda rough. You're lucky no one tried to start a fight! Lol<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Hi TBA,<BR/><BR/>Lmaooooo! <BR/><BR/>But I will say that it's kind of weird, after living in the south, to pass people sometimes and not say hello.<BR/><BR/>And you’re right; you can achieve a certain kind of invisibility in NY. Which is great when you're young and getting into things you have no business doing! :)<BR/><BR/>I have to say I'm somewhat of a chameleon. Eventually I acclimate and start to blend in culturally.<BR/><BR/>But at heart I still have my NY skepticism!<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Tami,<BR/><BR/>Lol, I'm not sure if I could handle all that conversation. I'm still in NY "I'm in a rush mode" usually.<BR/><BR/>I know how to give people a disinterested look when I need to escape! Lol<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>SheCodes,<BR/><BR/>Oh yeah, eye contact is not a good thing in NY.<BR/><BR/>I think NY'ers are friendly if given the opportunity but very skeptical by nature.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Jose,<BR/><BR/>I bet its worse for guys.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Tasha,<BR/><BR/>I remember the mr and miss thing too. <BR/><BR/>And you're right about the respect for older people.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>WTM,<BR/><BR/>That's true, even different parts of the same cities can be very different.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Nicole,<BR/><BR/>Lol I bet it does drive them crazy, but in a good way.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/><BR/>Lisa,<BR/><BR/>Lmao@the head nod! I remember that. Or people driving by while you are sitting on the porch and them waving, even though they don't know you.<BR/>___________________________________<BR/>___________________________________Mes Deux Centshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10697034868111011343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-51438610531118627742008-01-31T18:23:00.000-08:002008-01-31T18:23:00.000-08:00people say hello to me because i look them straigh...people say hello to me because i look them straight in the eye and say what's up <BR/><BR/>i give them a look like "you better say something back"<BR/><BR/>so they do and i'm happyJames Tubmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04192686802895547676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-90542631401198803462008-01-31T16:31:00.000-08:002008-01-31T16:31:00.000-08:00MDC: Now, I have always lived in Memphis. My sis...MDC: Now, I have always lived in Memphis. My sis and I were talking today about how we didn't have to say 'sir' or 'ma'am' to our parents, but our dad would pinch the fat part of your arm off if you didn't say it to other adults. . .<BR/><BR/>Also, when I was learning to drive, part of my lesson was learning how to do the "head nod hello" when you pull up to a stop sign next to someone. . . <BR/><BR/>Most importantly, at work, we look at folk real funny when they walk into the office without speaking. You do know the rule is whoever walks into the room must speak to everyone first. . . if you don't, you are immediately labeled a "no home training having. . . "<BR/><BR/>I would feel so out of place in a place where they didn't speak!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08854053210973737711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-26101423287670653612008-01-31T14:50:00.000-08:002008-01-31T14:50:00.000-08:00Raised in Mississippi, lived in Philly and now Atl...Raised in Mississippi, lived in Philly and now Atlanta. While I love the Northeast and may go back, I also love that people speak down here and say y'all. When I travel out of the area it's the y'alls that I miss most. And I say ma'am to everybody, even when I'm responding to people younger than me...drives my coworkers crazy.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934610307176940306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-45364722114099427432008-01-31T14:03:00.000-08:002008-01-31T14:03:00.000-08:00i's very cool the way each place has it's own spec...i's very cool the way each place has it's own special "flavor"...even how in one state different cities can be almost opposite...<BR/><BR/>it's a very nice balance to the whole....wisdomteachesmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04064324322310160672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-74998474123561134632008-01-31T13:53:00.000-08:002008-01-31T13:53:00.000-08:00I live in Louisiana, the deep south. And yes, comm...I live in Louisiana, the deep south. And yes, common courtesy and respect are ingrained in you from childhood. (If you're raised right) I just visited NYC for the first time last October. I loved it, but the energy and culture and kindness of people was different. No one talked to you. It seems like you can get real lonely if you don't know anyone. Down South, not only do people say hello, there's a respect for older people that is taught. If someone is from an older generation, you always say sir or ma'am when addressing them. You always proceed their names whith Miss, Mr., or Mrs. when talking to them, even if they're friends. I think when I move to a big city I will have to get use to this.tasha212https://www.blogger.com/profile/05191746801740115475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-63993524222114724512008-01-31T13:52:00.000-08:002008-01-31T13:52:00.000-08:00I'm from NYC. no. I mean, I do it in my school, bu...I'm from NYC. no. I mean, I do it in my school, but no.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-30600604924378587272008-01-31T13:28:00.000-08:002008-01-31T13:28:00.000-08:00Let me just say that I LOVE the south for that rea...Let me just say that I LOVE the south for that reason. I just think that the people are warmer,and I look forward to visting the southern states.<BR/><BR/>When I lived in Manhattan, on the street I couldn't even look people in the eye... especially men, because if I did, they thought I was offering something nasty. But everything was different indoors... I always talked to strangers in stores, in the theater, in restaurants, etc, and I found NYers every bit as friendly as the southerners. It all has to do with context.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Now I live in a snotty neighborhood. They don't say hi, but they kind of nod at you and keep walking their dog, etc. But it's clear that they don't want to strike up conversation.SheCodeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16781431886213930930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-28939513148021611402008-01-31T12:50:00.000-08:002008-01-31T12:50:00.000-08:00I grew up in industrial Northwestern Indiana, righ...I grew up in industrial Northwestern Indiana, right outside of Chicago, and spent a decade in the Windy City itself. And no, folks didn't go around speaking to random strangers.<BR/><BR/>Now, here in central Indiana, not only do people smile and say "hello," they launch into full-fledged conversations, especially at the store. Once a lady cornered me in the detergent aisle in WalMart to tell me about the wonders of using Borax. A couple times a checkout lady has given me unsolicited recipes. Another time I was searching for a nice vase and a customer at Pier One just jumped in to help and give advice.<BR/><BR/>White...black...young...old...thereare some friendly folk in the Hoosier state. In fact, my friend who is Louisiana born and bred visited me here last year and found the level of friendliness just plain weird.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12940502776699227686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-68996130137261878392008-01-31T10:42:00.000-08:002008-01-31T10:42:00.000-08:00The thing is -- my disposition has not changed des...The thing is -- my disposition has not changed despite living in the West and the South.<BR/><BR/>I'm still very much a New Yorker.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-44960171897040183602008-01-31T10:35:00.000-08:002008-01-31T10:35:00.000-08:00Hi Mes Deux.Chile, I moved from NYC to Atlanta. A...Hi Mes Deux.<BR/><BR/>Chile, I moved from NYC to Atlanta. And frankly, I find it a bit of a nuiscance to be spoken to ALL the time. I'm glad they have the southern hospitality thing going on. It's really nice. And it is refreshing.<BR/><BR/>I find however, that it's a little much sometimes; to the point of annoyance, frankly.<BR/><BR/>But overall, it's nice.<BR/><BR/>At the same time, there was something I liked about NYC. People don't pay attention to you like they do here.<BR/><BR/>I'm just sayin'.<BR/><BR/>I lived in Cali, too. People don't care about you there, either.<BR/><BR/>I also find that people here are EXTREMELY inquisitive. No likey!<BR/><BR/>LOLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-16232097922453002012008-01-31T09:49:00.000-08:002008-01-31T09:49:00.000-08:00Funny post.I live in the South, and pretty much ev...Funny post.<BR/><BR/>I live in the South, and pretty much everyone will greet you with a warm smile or a simple hello upon first meeting them. When I used to live in Milwaukee, it was strange but people just looked @ me like..."Are you expecting me to say 'Hello.'<BR/><BR/>I think that's where southern hospitality gets its name. Maybe.Donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02904024507867487521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-13684092364290420052008-01-31T07:44:00.000-08:002008-01-31T07:44:00.000-08:00It certainly doesn't happen all the time, especial...It certainly doesn't happen all the time, especially when it's really cold, but strangers do say "hi" sometimes, even up here in Boston. I do it too. <BR/><BR/>I do find that when we are in the midst of a really bad snowstorm, or right after and shoveling out, some people get really friendly. This also happens right before and after the Red Sox and Patriots win a Championship too. People will talk to anyone who will listen about the games!Lisa Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08096947438461486505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-78842183213224319522008-01-31T07:15:00.000-08:002008-01-31T07:15:00.000-08:00Yep, b/c I live in the South (Birmingham, AL)What'...Yep, b/c I live in the South (Birmingham, AL)<BR/><BR/>What's funny also is: I've visited the Maryland/DC area, and NJ often, and total strangers say hello to other total strangers also...so I've never experienced the whole "not speaking to total strangers thing."<BR/><BR/>I think sometimes it depends on how "approachable" one looks as to whether a total stranger will speak or not.Allison Mirandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17058178511898387086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-57472993936898955012008-01-31T06:37:00.000-08:002008-01-31T06:37:00.000-08:00LMAO!! hahahaaaweeellll, you are correct mdc, we d...LMAO!! <BR/>hahahaaa<BR/>weeellll, you are correct mdc, we do speak to everyone and it is a great feeling to just speak-friendly= good morning, howyoudoing?, whatup!<BR/><BR/>yes we love to smile and speak.<BR/>i also was taken aback many years ago when i was travelling to nyc and dc all the time. when i first spoke randomly - and out of habit- my friends pulled me to the side and quickly hushed me up saying NOOOO don't do that--you will get something started??? I said, jsut for saying hello?? i thought that was stupid--strange mean people--yes, Some new yokers are icy-tey always look depressed to me or mad. no joy.<BR/>but i do understand the mindset of people that live on top of each other and have to walk blocks to see green grass and trees...<BR/><BR/>LOL--i miss belks....hahah mc, i know you gave up trying to tell the correct way to say etienne aigner! LOL<BR/><BR/>we also order sweet tea by the pitcher and in the south you get hush puppies with sefood, and free re-fills on your tea.<BR/><BR/>but there are some areas wn here that you keep your eyes straight and your mouth closed- a lot of transplants-and just mans decision to act evil as they see fit.<BR/><BR/>and what symphony said is very true also-LOL-i can strike up a conversation in line at WallyWorld, at Tar-Jay, or at Jock-se-Penny. hahahahahaha<BR/>it' just how we are.<BR/><BR/>good topic...hahahaawisdomteachesmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04064324322310160672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-49231405500077535612008-01-31T06:32:00.000-08:002008-01-31T06:32:00.000-08:00They speak here in Maine. And they even hold the d...They speak here in Maine. And they even hold the door open for you. I'm originally from NYC and I just about die every time I go home.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-83341701336496996902008-01-31T05:37:00.000-08:002008-01-31T05:37:00.000-08:00I'm in Florida and we definitely say hello a lot. ...I'm in Florida and we definitely say hello a lot. And we'll have random pleasant conversations with almost ANYONE- White, Black, or old. And we'll talk trash with each other too, especially is a line is moving too slow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-36317677117867918862008-01-31T04:40:00.000-08:002008-01-31T04:40:00.000-08:00MDC yes they do. Hello!MDC yes they do. Hello!Ann Brockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273380949544392923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-81022046420987691302008-01-31T04:09:00.000-08:002008-01-31T04:09:00.000-08:00I live in suburban Atlanta and some people do say ...I live in suburban Atlanta and some people do say hello to me.<BR/><BR/>However, it's not that common (in my experience). I've had numerous people walk pass me and not speak (even after making eye contact).The Roving Reporterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16172658008196704643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-16531140075698284662008-01-31T00:54:00.000-08:002008-01-31T00:54:00.000-08:00Living in London it NEVER happens - unless someone...Living in London it NEVER happens - unless someone's asking you for change or trying to sell you something! I can't imagine that kind of random, humane friendliness.SheWhoLiveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11095351219125923670noreply@blogger.com