tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post3615148404408768252..comments2023-09-27T07:40:50.535-07:00Comments on Mes Deux Cents: My darn stupid heart...Mes Deux Centshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10697034868111011343noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-83195163885661761342007-12-09T06:01:00.000-08:002007-12-09T06:01:00.000-08:00Hi Monica,I don't think I'm done with the introspe...Hi Monica,<BR/><BR/>I don't think I'm done with the introspection, but I think I'm starting to get some answers. <BR/><BR/>You're right about dating, I should and I will probably wait until I get where ever I'm going.<BR/><BR/><BR/>ThanksMes Deux Centshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10697034868111011343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-30384963109227494562007-12-08T21:16:00.000-08:002007-12-08T21:16:00.000-08:00Ms Deux,Once your heart tells you that you're done...Ms Deux,<BR/>Once your heart tells you that you're done with the spiritual reevaluation and introspection, if you're ready, consider getting back inro the dating game.<BR/><BR/>But if you're considering relocating, you may want to wait until you've moved to your new city to do that.Monica Robertshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09702533200851174728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-9590047366227214952007-12-08T14:05:00.000-08:002007-12-08T14:05:00.000-08:00Ehav,"Maybe it is also a matter of thinking back o...Ehav,<BR/><BR/>"Maybe it is also a matter of thinking back over the good in your life and remembering that your life has purpose."<BR/><BR/>That is good advice. sometimes I forget to do that.<BR/><BR/>Thanks<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Miriam,<BR/><BR/>Wow thanks for sharing that. I guess I did find what I needed here initially. I suppose my internal compass is telling me that I'm done here and to move on.<BR/><BR/>Thanks Miriam that felt like a mini therapy session.Mes Deux Centshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10697034868111011343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-51025737789780976742007-12-08T10:25:00.000-08:002007-12-08T10:25:00.000-08:00Hi MDC,My two shekels.. Every place has a mazal -a...Hi MDC,<BR/><BR/>My two shekels.. <BR/><BR/>Every place has a <I>mazal</I> -a flow. Maybe for you, California was / is a place of solace and calmness -what you needed then. Did you indeed find solace?<BR/><BR/>if so, then your internal compass is intact, and the "what to do now? Where to go from here?" questions will best be answered by that same internal compass that has been guiding you. May it be well for you!<BR/><BR/>I sincerely wish you luck, my sister!Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06067406973014144499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-46983060091267675072007-12-08T09:41:00.000-08:002007-12-08T09:41:00.000-08:00Sometimes it also a matter of remembering that jus...Sometimes it also a matter of remembering that just as you have a past you also have a future. I believe that we make our own destinies. So you can't change the past, you can only deal with your present and your future.<BR/><BR/>Maybe it is also a matter of thinking back over the good in your life and remembering that your life has purpose. You are who you are now, and you can become so many things.<BR/><BR/>Other times it is a matter of looking back over the good things people feel about you. Look at what effects your blog has had, and remember that you have worth beyond that of gold and silver.<BR/><BR/>All the advice you have been is great, and the only thing that I would add is this. If where you are is not where you want to be, and who you are is not who you want to be. Take some time to yourself to research and find where you want to be and who you want to be.<BR/><BR/>I hope that you find the path that is right for you to mend your heart.Ehav Everhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04201312079270363001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-25209375809412990682007-12-08T08:14:00.000-08:002007-12-08T08:14:00.000-08:00Lisa,Thanks for the words. You're right thankfully...Lisa,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the words. You're right thankfully there are more "the" persons out there than just one.<BR/><BR/>And I think that Amber has me beat. Her poem is far beyond her years. But she has a great mom so I'm not surprised.<BR/><BR/><BR/>ThanksMes Deux Centshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10697034868111011343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-56259817861011942007-12-08T07:41:00.000-08:002007-12-08T07:41:00.000-08:00MDC: If you love something, set it free. . . if i...MDC: If you love something, set it free. . . if it comes back, it was meant to be. . .I know you've heard that a million times, but I think it applies here as well. I don't really believe that there is a such thing as "the" person for us - <BR/><BR/>I LOVE the poem - you and Amber have much talent :)Brown Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02766796383603919960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-16344697124372460852007-12-07T16:53:00.000-08:002007-12-07T16:53:00.000-08:00Browngirl,Hobbies, now that's a good idea. I've be...Browngirl,<BR/><BR/>Hobbies, now that's a good idea. I've been wanting to learn how to quilt. So maybe now’s a good time!<BR/><BR/>Thanks<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Xcentric Pryncess,<BR/><BR/>Thanks and I think you are right, they can mend.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Shelly,<BR/><BR/>"Do nice things for other people."<BR/><BR/>That's a good suggestion. It's the holidays so I've already volunteered to help at a dinner for the needy on this Tuesday. Maybe I'll find more to do.<BR/><BR/>Thanks<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Tami,<BR/><BR/>Mmmm Haagen Dazs! That might do the trick. (lol) <BR/><BR/>"Don't ever fall prey to urges to Google exes, just to see...No good ever comes of that. Ditto, drunken late night phone calls and drive bys."<BR/><BR/>(lol) thanks for the laugh there, I needed it! No more googling for me!<BR/><BR/>And you're right, it wasn't meant to be. I have to keep repeating that.<BR/><BR/>Thanks<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Our Spin On It,<BR/><BR/>"when I find myself missing an ex or kicking myself because I initiated the breakup, that is usually a sign that I am ready to share my heart again with someone"<BR/><BR/>Thanks for that. That may be the case with me now. I hope so.<BR/><BR/>And thanks for the quote.Mes Deux Centshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10697034868111011343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-37345923897706796652007-12-07T10:38:00.000-08:002007-12-07T10:38:00.000-08:00Mes Deux Cents,If I may add this,these are not my ...Mes Deux Cents,If I may add this,<BR/>these are not my words, but you might find it helpful. It is simple, yet there is good message within it. Also before I post the quote, when I find myself missing an ex or kicking myself because I initiated the breakup, that is usually a sign that I am ready to share my heart again with someone and the only reason I rememer my ex in those moment is because I remember how divine his touch was despite the faulty relationship. But I assure you, if you dug back in your garbage as my mother says when we backtrack to our ex-beaus, you would soon remember why you felt the need to leave the first time. Anyway here is the quote:“One day it is going to be clear as a bell to you. Men and women are puzzle pieces. No two pieces are alike, they’ve got all those different sides and shapes, jagged and smooth, but when there’s a fit, when that piece goes with the other, the search is over, it’s done. You don’t have to pull it back apart and try it again to make sure it works. It either does or it doesn’t, there’s no guessing. Now if another piece comes along, it’ll fit the other side, maybe if it’s a corner piece, or a center piece, it may have three or four different pieces it goes with to make the picture come to life. Each piece is vital to the next. Do you understand what I am saying? Other pieces may fit, but none can take the place of the other.”<BR/>~Trisha R. Thomas from the novel Nappily Ever After (the book was ok). Every situation has its place.Lady Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00399092651458093805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-66058292808267427132007-12-07T10:21:00.000-08:002007-12-07T10:21:00.000-08:00Oh, MDC...that poem was beautiful. Tonight, get a ...Oh, MDC...that poem was beautiful. <BR/><BR/>Tonight, get a bottle of Reisling, a pint of Haagan Dazs, and put Love is a Losing Game on repeat and have a good cry. <BR/><BR/>Tomorrow, dry your eyes, straighten up and keep on going. It doesn't do to wallow for too long. Earlier this week, I heard someone say: "Don't drag yesterday into today. You'll miss the awesomeness of the present by dwelling on the past." I thought it was pretty good advice and it made me feel better on a day I was pretty crabby. <BR/><BR/>For whatever reason, your old relationship was not meant to be. There is no point in holding on to guilt or placing blame. I'm sure the universe has some wonderful love waiting for you in the future. When that person shows up, you don't want the ghost of your ex taking up their space. So let your ex go. If the relationship is written in the stars, it will be back again. If not, it won't.<BR/><BR/>Oh, and a last bit of advice from Tami the Love Doctor: Don't ever fall prey to urges to Google exes, just to see...No good ever comes of that. Ditto, drunken late night phone calls and drive bys.<BR/><BR/>Feel better, MDC.Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12940502776699227686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-76938985118471069382007-12-07T09:54:00.000-08:002007-12-07T09:54:00.000-08:00What a moving post. Lovely poem too... very heart...What a moving post. Lovely poem too... very heartfelt.<BR/><BR/>I wish I had the wise words for you, MDC. But in truth, I have very little. I too have been nursing a broken heart for a looooooong time and am oh-so-achingly slowly putting myself back together. <BR/><BR/>All I can suggest? Do nice things for other people. And like browngirl said, find constructive hobbies and interests (thank God for blogging! ;-) ). Treat yourself well. Interact with other people and laugh and talk and learn as much as you can. But most of I guess... have faith. Believe in the wisdom of the universe that you are worthy of a wonderful relationship and everything will happen (and has happened) exactly as it's meant to.<BR/><BR/>Much love to you :-)SheWhoLiveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11095351219125923670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-12895279215144199432007-12-07T08:25:00.000-08:002007-12-07T08:25:00.000-08:00The poem is beautiful, I also have a broken heart ...The poem is beautiful, I also have a broken heart and they are truly hard to mend....but it can be done...there is someone for each of us...I hopeXcentric Pryncesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09956979975629979240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2842906968815125638.post-4343609725442953432007-12-07T08:23:00.000-08:002007-12-07T08:23:00.000-08:00my advice--hobbies! great distractions, even if t...my advice--hobbies! great distractions, even if they're temporary. get into something you've thought about trying more than once and just dive into that. feelings for an old flame are going to crop up eventually, don't let it consume you, it's temporary. so, go take a dance class or knitting class or jewelry making, something...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com