If you lay down with dogs you are liable to get fleas
Birds of a feather flock together
Growing up I heard these mantras over and over. At the time I hated hearing things like this. I remember thinking my mother and her friends were snobs.The truth was mother and her friends had standards.
In today's African America I wonder if we collectively have lost our standards. I wonder why we allow ourselves to consort with, dare I say it, trash.
I am referring to African Americans who make clear that they mean us harm. I'm talking about the R.Kellys and Damon Wayans' and D.L. Hugleys and Karrine Steffans' and too many rappers to name.
Why or how is it that R.Kelly, a man who has been indicted on charges of child pornography and harming a Black child is on tour and most of those in attendance are African Americans? Why don't these thousands of people who are willing to shell out good money care about the teenage girl that R.Kelly is accused of harming?
Michael Jackson was accused of harming a White child. He now has no career, is rumored to be broke and has been banished to Bahrain.
What has happened that this man, R.Kelly, can go on tour all over this nation and meet not even protests.
Why aren't we outraged that ABC is in talks with Damon Wayans to create a new show for their network? Recently Damon Wayans, as a guest on the ABC show The View, Said he agreed with Don Imus that the women of the Rutgers Basketball team where Nappy-headed hoes.
Why isn't Damon Wayans persona non grata in Black America? We were outraged when a White man said it, we wanted him banished from radio, so why no outrage now about the same words from a Black man?
I know that 99.99% of those reading this are probably outraged. Plenty of bloggers have written about this issue. Why hasn't it caught fire?
I am wondering about the larger community. I'm wondering if we collectively, African Americans, have so little regard for ourselves that we allow ourselves to be victims of a public kind of domestic abuse time and time again and don't try to protect ourselves.
D.L. Hugley recently had a cable television special. This after he appeared on the tonight show and said that he too thought the Rutgers women were nappy-headed hoes. Why aren't we asking for his banishment?
Although some like Gina at What About Our Daughters? did protest D.L. Hugley. Brava Gina!
The only reason I can muster is that we don't have standards. We are willing to allow anyone with a reasonable amount of melanin to say whatever they want about us with no repercussions.
Why haven't we shunned these people? Why haven't we sent a clear message that what's good for the goose is good for the gander. If we are outraged when a White man attacks us, then we Should also be outraged when A Black man attacks us.
Karrine Steffans appeared in Essence Magazine for goodness sake. This is a woman who has made a career out of being, as the old folks would say, a floozy. I know that Essence is no longer ours but where is the outrage.
Call it snobbery or whatever you like, we need to get back to a place where we will reject the presence of individuals that mean the group harm.
We cannot afford to lay with dogs, we will all get fleas.
Do you agree? Do we need to make a "white" list and begin "Whitelisting" people?